Clearly what we do is important as well as how we actually do it. But the order in which we may choose to do certain activities or things, also can make a real big difference. So, keeping this in mind, here are my top suggestions for your day, evening or weekend of love and happiness this Valentine’s Day.
1. Amuse bouche! Let’s get on with chocolate – first. It will make you more attentive and the evening more memorable.
Real health benefits of having chocolate:
- Data represents first human trials examining the impact of dark chocolate consumption on cognition and other brain functions. Findings from two new studies show dark chocolate consumption reduces stress and inflammation, while improving memory, immunity and mood.
- Eat dark chocolate to beat the midday slump? Northern Arizona University (May 2018) A study shows chocolate can increase brain characteristics of attention and significantly affect blood pressure levels. Historically, chocolate has been recognized as a vasodilator, meaning that it widens blood vessels and lowers blood pressure (like Viagra does!) in the long run, but chocolate also contains some powerful stimulants.
- Chocolate for your heart BMJ (June 2015). Eating up to 100 g of chocolate every day is linked to lowered heart disease and stroke risk. The calculations showed that compared with those who ate no chocolate higher intake was linked to an 11% lower risk of cardiovascular disease and a 25% lower risk of associated death. This is not your free ticket to eat a chocolate bar everyday. Simply bite off a square of dark chocolate to enjoy benefits both short and long term.
- There’s a Good Reason to Eat Chocolate While Pregnant. I have told my patients to do this for years. Women who eat chocolate every day have happier babies and they show less separation anxiety and cry less. If it helps with pregnant women and their babies it will help all of us.
- Give a gift that keeps on giving – chocolate completely 100% guilt free, sugar free, carb, free, super high In fiber and taste like a Bounty Bar! Clear Chocolate Coconut Fiber Bars,awesome after dinner or during the high craving time mid-afternoon. We have one patient that buys loads and freezes them. Combine it with our protein rich Protein Almond Spread, Birthday cake flavourfor an extra special treat. Who doesn’t love nut butter and chocolate? Yummy.
2. Cook dinner together. Couples that do things together, tend to stay together. And here’s why….
1.) It causes connection as you plan and shop for the meals. You also have the benefit of learning new things together and experimentation. Think of how different this is as compared to one person trying to plan the meal, shopping alone, prepping alone…. A big void gets created as there is a lack of a life “together”.
2.) You enjoy and experience something together – new flavors, new techniques, and develop common likes.
3.) Doing this creates mutual respect and appreciation for each other.
4.) Creates an opportunity to bond – beyond date night.
Check out my recipe blog – I recommend the Spicy Tacos for Valentines Day, cooks it just one pot, its carb free – so no belly bloat or carb coma
3. Have a romantic movie marathon – or not! I say turn-up the spice with an episode of Trueblood or The Body Guard. I think vampires and the protection of a body guard are both pretty sexy. Is that weird?
Real health benefits of a spicy show or movie:
- Watching a spicy show or movie can stimulate the brain, our largest sex organ, especially important for women.
- Watching together Strengthens bond and connection as you experience the joy, love, emotion related to what you are watching. And remember, what you watch is very important. In fact, watching romantic movies can boost progesterone in men and women by 10%, bringing couples closer together according to University of Michigan psychology researchers. Your hormones respond– not just your mind! Action movies tend to boost testosterone in men. So, my take home message for you is to pick one of romantic and one action and you will create the perfect hormone state for the “bedroom connection, as progesterone reduces anxiety and testosterone helps to create the motivation, desire and drive for attentive lovers.
4. Exchange heartfelt gifts. Love this resource and here are some of my favorites:
Real health benefits of my top gifts:
1.) Date Night Box Set (Benefit: Good sex is good for you – five things an orgasm offers: stress reduction, anti-aging may even cut wrinkles around your eyes, appetite control, immune boost, sleep better)
Spice things up next date night with a card game that includes conversation-starters and dares.
2.) Oil Diffuser (Aromatherapy works with proven benefits on the brain and nervous system as scents directly stimulate the brain)
Fill up her senses with heavenly essential oils, diffused from this pretty porcelain flower atop a hand-carved wooden base.
3.) Personalized Socks (Warm feet, warm heart, throw in healing balm for dry cracked heals)
Never underestimate the power of a solid pair of socks. This personalized set can showcase a monogram or cute phrase.
4.) 6-Piece Shave Kit (I think there is something so sexy about a man in shaving cream, or even helping him shave). Pick an all-natural shave cream and after shave balm that is free of parabens and drying ingredients like alcohol.
Men like pampering, too! This at-home shave kit will make him feel like a real gentleman. Since this item isn’t season-specific, it could also make a great birthday gift for your boyfriend!
5.) Monogram Slate Coasters (Perfect as a bedside coaster because you can feel it in the dark easily. Add your natural calm in a mug – magnesium to relax the body and mind)
He’ll feel like a VIP every time he sets his glass down on one of these rustic coasters.
6.) Libido Boost Support: Clear Energy – 3 on rising for dopamine and brain boost andClear Libido Boost – 3 also on rising or before bed for a sex hormone boost. Combine with 1 cap Clear Zinc 30 mg at bedtime, as it helps to raise testosterone, important for motivation, drive, memory and libido.
5. Play hooky…I call it “The call in well: I feel great! Therefore, I’m not coming to work today.”
Real health benefits of rest and relaxation as a couple:
Leisure time is huge for couples. A great perk for a serious relationship is that it comes with a go-to activities partner. Although plenty of people are fine running around by themselves, many people get out and do much more when they are sharing their experiences with someone else. Engaging in fun and leisurely activities can, of course, improve health by reducing stress and increasing physical activity.
Real Health Benefit of random acts of “wildness” in your couple activities:
The study was conducted by the University of Derby and The Wildlife Trusts to try and measure the impact of last year’s “30 Days Wild” campaign, run by the charity. The study showed that there was a scientifically significant increase in people’s health, happiness, connection to nature and active nature behaviours, such as feeding the birds and planting flowers for bees – not just throughout the challenge but sustained for months after the challenge had been completed. Impressively, says McRobert, the number of people reporting their health as “excellent” increased by 30% and this improvement in health being predicted by the increase in happiness, this relationship is mediated by the change in connection to nature. It adds to a growing body of evidence that shows definitively that we need nature for our health and wellbeing.
According to Dr. Richardson there is already research evidence that exposure to nature can reduce hypertension (abnormally high blood pressure), respiratory tract and cardiovascular illnesses; improve vitality and mood; benefit issues of mental wellbeing such as anxiety; and restore attention capacity and mental fatigue. But more than that, feeling a part of nature has been shown to significantly correlate with life satisfaction, vitality, meaningfulness, happiness, mindfulness, and lower cognitive anxiety. “These correlations are of a similar magnitude to those found between wellbeing and other variables, such as marriage and education, whose relationships with wellbeing are well established.”
Real Health Benefit of involving your dog in your couples’ activities or maybe even “giving” the gift of puppy love:
Look deep into my eyes – of your doggie or your partner – it furthers an oxytocin boost – the hormone of connection, and also:
Improves heart health linked to lower blood pressure, cholesterol blood sugar and heart reduce risk of heart attack.
Keeps you fit and active
Helps you lose weight
Improves your social life
Reduces stress and staves off depression
6. Get to know each other better over a bottle of wine or champagne or top 2019 health trends a non-alcoholic cocktail (straw-free of course) or CBD cocktail.
Real Health Benefits of:
o Wine: Depending on the type and sugar content, wine can be good for you. My suggestion – Pinot Noir only! It is free of histamines, so no headache or other bad effects in the morning.
o Champagne: Check these top five benefits of champagne here.
o Non-alcoholic cocktail without the straw: I recommend creating a recipe or finding one online that has pomegranate in it…..it helps to balance sex hormones.
o CBD cocktail: After all it is 2019, CBD is an anti-inflammatory for the brain, reduces anxiety, depression, pain, and can treat signs of neuropathy. It assists with mood, sleep and even post-traumatic stress. Why not start the night off right with this and the chocolate to get in the right “head-space”? Call us for more information on CBD.
7. Write love letters to each other, or not! I say play the question game, a fun, interactive and engaging process for both new and old couples (both use topics to stimulate good conversation and learning more about each other…)
Use these resources to make it easy for you:
Real Health Benefits of connecting and communicating:
- The way relationships affect our health changes as the relationship ages. According to mensjournal.com: “There’s a very strong, positive effect of entering a marriage that overtime dissipates,” says Beam. That is, until the Golden Years kick in. “There’s evidence that in long-term marriages, you get happier over time,” says Proulx. As people get older, big stressors, like children and work, often go away. While this can be a happiness boost for anyone, people in long-term relationships — Proulx looked at those lasting at least 20 years — get the extra advantage of having the support and company of someone they (likely) care about very deeply and enjoy being around.
- Never stop exploring. New experiences build new neural pathways and boost dopamine, the hormone of motivation, drive and focus.
8. Give each other a massage. I recommend the use coconut oil as a massage oil (that does not stain and it is edible) How about this?Take a massage course in secret and then offer your partner a massage like no other…like a professional.
Bonus: another helpful liquid that may come into play before, during or after massage is Hathor Lube, my top pick as an all-natural lubricant.
Real Health Benefit of massage:
- Proven to reduce cortisol, and to cause a boost of three feel good hormones – oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin. Not to mention it improves lymphatic drainage, reduces pain and improves sleep and relaxation.
9. Take a class together!
Yes, a cooking class could do, but how about one of these?
- Mindfulness courses
- Tantric Sex Course
- How to give oral sex
Real Health Benefit of learning something new together:
- Reduced stress and greater connection.
- Nearly everyone gets stressed out by their relationship at some point but, in general, a significant other has a calming effect. “Having a healthy relationship can buffer us from the negative effects of stress,” says Proulx. In a 2010 study from the University of Chicago, students undergoing a stressful test had markedly lower cortisol levels — known as the stress hormone — if they were married. Not only do married couples often share responsibilities but having a special someone to think about seems to take the edge off during hectic times.
10. Take a bath together – ease sore muscles, get wet and slippery, stave off the cold winter chill and enjoy…
Real Health Benefits of having a bath:
- Relaxation and peace and quiet – read here for all top health benefits.
- Add these things to make it much more enjoyable: candles, relaxing music
- Epsom salt – rich in magnesium it is a natural muscle relaxant
- Natural bubble bath – add essential oils for added benefits but do it right – check this resource
11. A song and a dance. Nothing brings people together more than music. How about each of you choose one song to play during dinner or the evening…and dance (which may come easier after the cocktail options above)!
Real Health Benefits of music and dancing:
- Music raises dopamine and serotonin, dancing classes have been found to be almost as effective as SSRI for depression and anxiety in one 12 week study. Don’t like to dance? Add music to your workout together…it can be great foreplay.
- Another option to raise mood, motivation , libido and dopamine – 3 caps of Clear Energy on rising.